Lessons from a Gold Kippah

It is a Saturday morning in autumn, 1969. I am sitting in the 7th row of Congregation B’nai Zion, a Conservative synagogue in Chicago’s East Rogers Park. In addition to my suit and prayer shawl, I am wearing a shiny gold Kippah, the emblem of the temple’s Post Bar/Bat Mitzvah Club. My job this morning is to present the new Bar Mitzvah boy with an identical Kippah and invite him to join the club.
I watch and listen as the young man chants his Haftarah and blessings. The Rabbi gives a benediction and a short sermon. As a representative of the Women’s Club presents the Bar Mitzvah with a silver Kiddush cup, I await a signal from the Cantor that I should step up to the Bimah to make the next presentation.
No signal. I try to catch the Cantor’s eye. Still nothing. I subtly point to my gold Kippah. Not an inkling of recognition. I stay in my seat and the service moves to the concluding prayers. The young man/boy never receives his special gold invitation, and I am frustrated and embarrassed in my seat.
I learned a lesson that morning. That frustration stayed with me. Wait for a signal, and it might never come. When the time is right, get up and take the stage.
That takeaway has guided me throughout my career. I’ve applied for professional positions for which I wasn’t exactly qualified. Sometimes, I got them, and sometimes, I didn’t. If I did, I held my own, learning on the job.
I started writing a blog without knowing if anyone wanted to read it. It turns out, lots of people do. Without training, I’ve written a play and submitted it to a producer. That may have been a step too far, but it was a learning experience.
On countless occasions, I have stepped forward to take civic posts and volunteer positions, and I thrived when I did. And now, as the April 1 municipal election approaches, my name is once again on the ballot as I run for trustee of my home village of Riverwoods.
There will never be a Bat Signal lighting up the sky. There may never even be a Cantor discretely signaling you to the stage. Don’t wait for a sign. Go out and create your opportunity. As Nike says “Just do it.”


